Try this:
Somehow I believe this is the problem:
Disable the Power Management on the USB Root Hub in the Device Manager using the following steps:
1. On the desktop computer, right-click My Computer and select Properties.
2. Click the Hardware tab, and then click Device Manager.
3. Expand Universal Serial Bus controllers.
4. Right-click the USB Root Hub and select Properties.
5. Click the Power Management tab, and then remove the check from the Allow the computer to turn off this device to save power check box.
6. Click OK.
7. Repeat steps 4 through 6 for each USB Root Hub listed in the Device Manager.
If it does not work then try this if not already:
BlackBerry Desktop Manager cannot detect the BlackBerry smartphone