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CoDudette · 05-21-2009, 12:05 PM

i am not christian. i am a hindu, and according to hindu beliefs, having sex before you're married is definitely not ok. it is highly looked down upon, and is almost cause for being ostrasized. does that make me a bad hindu? no it doesn't. what i did was by choice, and if i am meant to be punished in this lifetime or next, i will be.

society, especially ours, expects you to follow certain norms, and if you don't, it makes you a "bad" person. i don't believe in any of it, and i find it almost hypocritical that the people who make you feel so bad about yourself, and the way you live your life, are the people who have probably done worse in their lives.

a bit off topic.

kathrynhr · 05-21-2009, 12:55 PM

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society, especially ours, expects you to follow certain norms, and if you don't, it makes you a "bad" person. i don't believe in any of it, and i find it almost hypocritical that the people who make you feel so bad about yourself, and the way you live your life, are the people who have probably done worse in their lives.

I think hypocrites gravitate to Christianity like "leg humpers" to your profile pic, CoDudette.

I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I don't want other people to make the same mistakes I've made, or have the same regrets, or have to be hit in the head with one of life's bricks in order for a valuable piece of information to start to sink in. I've been through hard times. I've fought with divorce, and depression, and chronic illness. I've held the lifeless body of my infant daughter in my arms. I've served my country, and my church, and my community, in less than ideal circumstances. I've dealt with being a stepmom, and with my son having a stepmom, and all the politics that go with blended families on all sides. I've watched good friends fight with cancer, and cared for ailing grandparents at the end of their lives. I'm not a spring chicken anymore, and I've learned a thing or two -- the hard way -- along the way. I would never choose for someone else to suffer the way I have in order to learn a life lesson. And I realize some people won't learn any other way, but it kills me to watch it.

To me, sexual promiscuity eventually equals suffering. I can't bear to watch people suffer. It's like I'm watching a car crash, unable to look away.

I'm attending a funeral tomorrow for an 84-year-old man whose lifetime of emotional ineptitude and self-centered decision making has ripped his family apart: infidelity, lies, greed, the whole nine yards. I'd like to think he found peace for himself before he died, but I'm not sure that's the case. His family has none, and will be picking up the pieces he left behind him for years to come. I suppose I'm in a sorry state of mind because of this, so if this post is rambly, please excuse it.

Basically what I'm trying to say is I want you all to be happy. Really happy, not just the sauce-induced kind of happy. And if I sound like a mom... well, I am one.

akosnitzky · 06-22-2009, 10:12 AM

Wirelessly posted (Its All About the U!)

I am not condoning this topic but I am not frowning either. Enough said

CoDudette · 06-24-2009, 03:17 AM

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I think hypocrites gravitate to Christianity like "leg humpers" to your profile pic, CoDudette.

damn those leg-humpers, my legs are sore

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Basically what I'm trying to say is I want you all to be happy. Really happy, not just the sauce-induced kind of happy. And if I sound like a mom... well, I am one.

it all just comes from within..somehow i find true happiness hard to find at times, but when i do, the world just seems so much more peaceful.

TBOLTRAM · 06-28-2009, 09:35 PM

At the beginning of the 20th century this was accepted behavior. What has changed?

I am not condoning the behavior but find it rather ironic that morals and accepted behavior change with the wind. Of course at the beginning of the 20th century the 4th best selling electrical applicance was vibrators. Go figure.

SteveO86 · 06-28-2009, 09:47 PM

Times were different back then though..

I'd like to say people have higher standards now... but yea..

CoDudette · 06-29-2009, 03:34 AM

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Times were different back then though..

I'd like to say people have higher standards now... but yea..

i'd like to agree with you on that.. but again, 'higher standards' is all subjective no?

SteveO86 · 06-29-2009, 09:10 AM

True.. Those standards will vary from person to person.. no matter the time.

CoDudette · 06-30-2009, 05:33 AM

higher standards, or any form of standards are set by each individual self. if the father, felt that prostitution was 'classy' then those are his standards.

kjjb0204 · 06-30-2009, 10:11 PM

This is stupid. The kid was probably already having sex and just played stupid when his dad offered to get him a hooker so he could brag to his friends. At 14, hookers seem very cool.

CoDudette · 07-01-2009, 02:25 AM

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This is stupid. The kid was probably already having sex and just played stupid when his dad offered to get him a hooker so he could brag to his friends. At 14, hookers seem very cool.

Really? some people think Hookers are cool at 14??

SteveO86 · 07-01-2009, 05:47 AM

If you look hard enough, anything is cool to someone, somewhere.

mriff · 07-01-2009, 06:06 AM

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Really? some people think Hookers are cool at 14??

That would be a definite yes. At 14, boys are in full raging hormones mode. I know, I have a 14 year old boy.

CoDudette · 07-01-2009, 06:58 AM

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That would be a definite yes. At 14, boys are in full raging hormones mode. I know, I have a 14 year old boy.

i definitely must have been living under some weird protective umbrella that i always thought that boys would never find hookers cool.. ever!

kjjb0204 · 07-01-2009, 05:11 PM

A 14 year old boy considers any opportunity for sex very cool.

SteveO86 · 07-01-2009, 05:47 PM

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A 14 year old boy considers any opportunity for sex very cool.

There is much truth to that statement.

djm2 · 07-01-2009, 06:04 PM

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A 14 year old boy considers any opportunity for sex very cool.

Even with the Widow Thumb and her four daughters.

mriff · 07-01-2009, 07:25 PM

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i definitely must have been living under some weird protective umbrella that i always thought that boys would never find hookers cool.. ever!

It's not so much that they're hookers I guess. Of course it depends on what the hooker looks like.

It's more that they are considered sexually available. At 14 a boy (young man actually) is pretty much through puberty and approaching sexual maturity. So yeah, they would be interested for sure. Although as I've said, this would not be an emotionally healthy situation. And I don't condone what this 'father' did with his son.