I found the reason.
1. BB Desktop is only 32 bit mode and my mac is full 64 bit mode
work around
I downloaded a new app that gave me the option to start in 32 bit mode
Link:
Startup Mode Selector
while in 32 bit mode I launched the application and was able to connect my BB to desktop and everything works great.
Cons:
Once in 32 bit mode the mac stays in 32 bit mode until you re-launch the app and start up again in 64 bit mode.
This is a work around and hopefully RIM will release a new version of desktop for full support of 64 bit
Thank you for all the responses.