[eomund]

Just read through this whole friggin thing to find out at the end it's a friggin month old. Maybe I need to start paying closer attention to the dates.

[Shorteh]

On the phone thing... Suprise her tomorrow morning, tell her you're switching her phones for the day. She might call whoever from your phone and tell them not to call or text her phone, but you'll have phone records of who she called from your phone...



On the trust thing.. You can't force someone to be faithful to you. If she wants to cheat, she's going to cheat whether or not you are trying to stop it from happening. Second, not all women cheat. I've been with my husband for 8 yrs and never have I cheated. Yes I've had chance after chance to, but it's not worth it. Look, if you can't trust your girl, there's no relationship. PERIOD!!! Like a few other people already told you, get over the insecurities you have, and let her be. If it's meant to be, it'll be. But I promise you this, nagging her about cheating, is only making her want to do it more. Have some faith in her, if she's REALLY worth the trouble, why go through the trouble? You already "know" she's worth it, but why stress yourself out? In my point of view, you only will have yourself to blame if things don't work out... You stressed yourself and your relationship with her... For what? To not be with her in the end? OR maybe gain some trust in her? You're are doing more damage to your relationship than you are doing good, even though in your heart, you mean good... Eventually, if you keep going this way with it, she'll get tired and tell you to F off.
My point being, you can't tame something or someone who doesn't want to be tamed..

Good luck!

[John Clark]

Originally Posted by Thatzmister2u

Yes it was a trainwreck....it should have stayed dead where it was. No sense in reviving this painful mess. Let sleeping dogs lay!

[KoubaK]

my personal suggestion is .. Call logs check them from service provider and txts? well hmm ask for the phone!! check address book .. look for unknown people (if you be a good b/f and happen to meet all of her friends (like i do) you just worry about those who you dont know)

[justajason]

I feel empathy for the guy. And the bashing sucks, because it started out to be a question about a blackberry.. And it was kinda technical...kinda...
Once apon a time, I had a vision. And it wasnt pretty, but it wasnt a hallucination.
And I recall the pain I felt when it was all said and done. Trust is an earned thing, and it shoudnt be given lightly, even if you "Know" someone. I dont even trust my own mother, and for good reason. MY CREDIT!!! So, im sure youre an attractive man, with good qualities, and a decent heart. I say, turn it around... The best way to make someone understand, is to prove it to yourself first. Withdraw from her, slowly, and see what her reaction is..if she comes to you, it might work.. If not, ask her if she wants paper, or plastic.... Then cram her crap into it, get a shower, get dressed, and GO OUT! And remember this, if what shes doing to you, dosent bother her, then it shouldnt bother you...

good luck brother....

[davidlleroy]

LOL. BB Forums = Free therapists

[justajason]

Originally Posted by davidlleroy

LOL. BB Forums = Free therapists

YUP! Remember, there are things, that only your hairstylist knows!

[rDeuce]

Originally Posted by Shorteh

On the phone thing... Suprise her tomorrow morning, tell her you're switching her phones for the day. She might call whoever from your phone and tell them not to call or text her phone, but you'll have phone records of who she called from your phone...



On the trust thing.. You can't force someone to be faithful to you. If she wants to cheat, she's going to cheat whether or not you are trying to stop it from happening. Second, not all women cheat. I've been with my husband for 8 yrs and never have I cheated. Yes I've had chance after chance to, but it's not worth it. Look, if you can't trust your girl, there's no relationship. PERIOD!!! Like a few other people already told you, get over the insecurities you have, and let her be. If it's meant to be, it'll be. But I promise you this, nagging her about cheating, is only making her want to do it more. Have some faith in her, if she's REALLY worth the trouble, why go through the trouble? You already "know" she's worth it, but why stress yourself out? In my point of view, you only will have yourself to blame if things don't work out... You stressed yourself and your relationship with her... For what? To not be with her in the end? OR maybe gain some trust in her? You're are doing more damage to your relationship than you are doing good, even though in your heart, you mean good... Eventually, if you keep going this way with it, she'll get tired and tell you to F off.
My point being, you can't tame something or someone who doesn't want to be tamed..

Good luck!

VERY well said ma'am

[StevePPD]

Punch me in the face.

[jsconyers]

Originally Posted by StevePPD

Punch her in the face.

I understand this is an attempt at humor, but condoning domestic violence or violence of any sort really is NOT funny.

[Sith_Apprentice]

that post was way out of line and has been taken care of.

[jsconyers]

LOL Sith, nice edit

[Rolo1971]

can we just let this thread die?

[Jumpman23]

This guy needs some serious Leykis 101 training and just DTB!!

Dude is young and already wanting to get married?? No girl is worth all that trouble for.

[tpoon]

Ummm, I think that in any mature relationship, trust would be one of the foundation points. Good luck with all that

[UGOFERRI]

Go get a doctor man, even if you are right you're paranoid obsesed.

[dasunst3r]

Trust is a fundamental part of a relationship. If it is violated by either party for any reason, a relationship cannot exist.

[Thatzmister2u]

I said it before...

Originally Posted by Thatzmister2u

Yes it was a trainwreck....it should have stayed dead where it was. No sense in reviving this painful mess. Let sleeping dogs lay!

Thread closed.