So apparently I didn't search hard enough, as I found a thread that was discussing my issue...
http://www.blackberryforums.com/blue...4-2-0-a-4.html
However that thread is about 7 months old, and lots of people have seeming upgraded to some iteration of 4.5. Has upgrading to 4.5 helped folks. Did I place my post in the wrong forum?
Oh well, I think its time for me to start the process of what my next phone will be and if I want to change carriers...