Welcome to the forums. You should update your profile to show that you're now using a 9630, since it still shows 8130.
I agree that the notifications are quite different with the Tour. I believe it's an OS thing, not specific to the Tour, though. From what I've found, the 'Phone' will play a noise in the Normal, Loud, and Phone Calls Only profile.
You can create your own Profiles, too, which may provide the flexibility you're looking for with the way they were handled with the previous device.
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