I found the reason.
1. BB Desktop is only 32 bit mode and my mac is full 64 bit mode
I downloaded a new app that gave me the option to start in 32 bit mode
Link: Startup Mode Selector
while in 32 bit mode I launched the application and was able to connect my BB to desktop and everything works great.
Once in 32 bit mode the mac stays in 32 bit mode until you re-launch the app and start up again in 64 bit mode.
This is a work around and hopefully RIM will release a new version of desktop for full support of 64 bit
Thank you for all the responses.